Answer: To help your children handle conflict, let’s first understand the issue. Conflict is a part of everyday life, arising from chores, homework or differences in values. The hectic pace of modern life, along with changes in schools and parenting styles, can increase household tension.
Children often face conflicts at school due to cultural or value differences, and as they grow, their changing opinions can lead to family friction. Social media may add to these pressures, sometimes causing isolation, anxiety and identity confusion.
One simple solution is to have family meals together. Many families overlook this, but it greatly impacts family dynamics. According to an American Heart Association survey, 91% of parents noticed reduced family stress when eating together, yet many reported eating alone half the time.
Peter Feaver, a political science professor, highlights in “Finding God at Harvard” that discussions at the family table were crucial in shaping his life, leading him to advise two U.S. presidents.
The family table is where we can learn conflict resolution, active listening and healthy relationships. Sadly, many families eat while watching TV or quickly without taking the time for healthy dialog. Even Christian families might miss the significance of dining together, a practice where we can experience love and learn to manage conflicts.
Jesus exemplified this by sharing meals with social outcasts, corrupt officials and proud religious leaders, using these moments to bridge divides and teach important lessons. Sharing meals with your children and others is a powerful way to handle conflicts and nurture relationships. But don’t rush. Take time to listen to one another.
John Henry
Director, YWAM Converge/Haven House
Galloway
Ywamconverge.org
